Wild at Heart: The Agreement

Madame M:

Well said!

“Coercion associated with love” is something you say you don’t get. Would that more of both genders would not get it either, but the human desire for control is sometimes almost maniacally overwhelming. Interesting that we are, if the stories are correct, fashioned by a deity who is into free will, not control, yet too many of the creations spend their lives trying to impose control and subjugate free will! Human history, both grand and social, is a never-ending pattern of insecure and selfish control dramas.

If some women are perhaps waking up to the negative effects of controlling “their” men (a possessive term I dislike, but will use for lazy shorthand), maybe the old adage “be careful what you wish for,” applies here.

You are right that men should be free to use all their wildness and fierceness for good. We must remember too that their idea of “good” may be different from what the sorority defines it as. [Unavoidable cliché phrase alert!] That does not make it wrong, only different.

His assertion that many males choose females that don’t challenge them much as males seems correct in many instances. They are responding to the conditioning of the socially dominant sorority, and that response means to either settle or to withdraw into apparent safety. It often either emasculates the man, or sets him up for future relationship explosion.

His words about the world are all too true in too many instances: a carnival of posers and counterfeits—counterfeit achievements, counterfeit adventures, counterfeit beauties.

And then there is the reality that we live in a broken world full of broken people.

I like his humble and reflective prayers, like this one: “Jesus, you know the pain and disappointment in my heart. What would you have me do?”

I think his formulations of the questions women are subconsciously asking are correct, but you are more the authority source there:
Will you pursue me?
Do you delight in me?
Will you fight for me?

I agree with him that some mystery is essential to adventure, and maybe God made the universe with that in mind.

I like his idea that we men should not make the woman the adventure, as we often do, but make her part of it. That will set things apart from the norm.

I think his ideas of the stages of males are probably correct: Boyhood, Cowboy, Warrior, Lover, King, Sage.

That sums up for the moment the things I agree on. Next time up: the criticisms! :)