Good readers:
Madame is indisposed, so you get me for a
special bonus post.
What are we filling our lives with? Do we have space? When do we just BE?
I was thinking of this when I had dinner with a
buddy of mine who has a lot of stress in his life: traveling often, doing two
jobs and one occasional job on the side.
We went to Cracker Barrel tonight as a storm was scheduled to come
in. My friend said he was content just
to sit by the fire there and drink hot tea and talk. He said it calmed him. We have both been deployed in the last few
years, and know the longings for home.
My longing when I was deployed was to imagine sitting in Panera and
drinking hot chocolate from a ceramic mug and revel in the fact that neither I
nor anyone around me in Panera was armed.
When I came home, that reality calmed me.
Those who seem to revel in the prospect of many
or most people being armed, that it will make people “safe,” should try living
it for an extended period. You will
likely find it far less appealing than you think. Far from feeling safe and secure, the tension
will ripple through everything. The
maddening variables take their relentless, stressful toll on you: Who has the
more lethal or dangerous weapon or weapons?
Who gets to use it or them first?
What about IEDs, rockets, mortars, explosives, truck bombs, or even gas
or biological? How do you know who the
enemy is until the very last second when it is often too late?
And you have to sleep sometime. What weapon that you have can guard you when
you are asleep? If you sleep fitfully,
half alert, you can feel what that does to you, mentally and physically. You can feel the years coming off your life
and the mental and emotional rearranging you might never be able to put back to
what it was before.
And let’s not even mention when weapons are
used.
Good people under that kind of stress can
snap. It is so easy to get tired, to draw the
strings too tight for too long. We are
not meant to live under that stress. See
how you feel when comrades, people on the same side, have a misunderstanding,
when tempers flare from exhausted people whose adrenals have nearly burned out
from the stress. It’s a special kind of
tension to be in the midst of armed people of the same side when they point their
weapons at each other and no one wants to back down.
And that was with large numbers of people
forced to work together, with minimal distractions or outside responsibilities,
against a common “enemy.” What would be
the case in this hyper-individualistic society, where people are alone or in
very small groups?
A society should be careful not to let its
desire to preserve life and security come at the cost of the character of that
life.
3 comments:
There are no easy answers to this crisis. We have to look at mental
health services and how we can identify these people before they snap.
This is critical because if someone is hell bent on killing, these
people will find a way to do so regardless of whether they have guns
or no guns. We, as a society, have to prevent these tragedies before
they occur and that requires more than just gun control. In addition,
parents need to become parents again and not just be "friends" with
their kids. I believe that a lot of parents in our society have
abdicated their responsibility as parents and allowed kids to run
wild. I don’t understand that killer’s mother. It is clear that her son had a mental disorder and yet she bought five firearms, she kept at her home. The questions that scream to be answered are:
1. Why did she keep those five guns at home?
2. Why did she take her son to learn how to shoot?
3. Why did she allow him to play violent video games?
4. Why did she not get professional help?
Did she allow the guns because she wanted to please him or be his friend? If this is case, she should be ashamed of her parenting ability! As parents it is our duty to prepare our children to face life and their future. This mandate sometimes cause us as parents to be disliked by our children. If our children dislike us at times, then we are on the right road to preparing them to be productive citizens. Yes, we will sacrifice for our children and insist they do the right thing, which is the true love! Wake up American! Let us be mentally healthy for our children!You reap what you sow!!
Of course there are more issues in play than just mental health, but well said!
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